21 year old wife cheated on me, wants to find herself?

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"additional details"... her and her friend took 2 trips to vegas and one to san diego to meet him. I confronted her the next day and she said it was just a kiss and she was going to go on vacation again with her mother during labor day weekend. I told her I wouldnt allow that but anyways she took some of her clothes from our house and during that week i was heartbroken. As i came to find out last week, she slept with the guy around 10 times and she feels that she is happy yet sad at the same time. She is not regretful of what she did but she is sad for what she did to me. She would still tell me she loved me and I was an idiot enough to meet her at he workplace and then later in the day sleep with her after numerous advice of not to do it. Overall I feel bad for her she is so confused, made out with her friend there and went into detail of what she did with the guy, I am the idiot for allowing her to even share that with me. She dropped classes at college with me and recently has been very rude through texts with me. I am so glad I am the better person and i never bitched her out or anything like that. I told her to be careful and I only wish what is best for her. I blocked her off my iphone but i can still see the text messages that she sends me, the recent ones saying "tell your mom to stop leaving me voicemails because we will never have another relationship again", my moms english isnt so good but what she told her is to stop being a pain and that my mother wished to meet with her and her mom to advice her. I know she shouldnt even be contacting her and i am trying my best to move on, but there is still the feeling inside of me that she is a good person making really bad choices. She did try to get back with me but i pushed her away and I kinda wish that i wouldve just let her go from the beginning. This woman played so many games with me telling me she is in love with me, can a girl really be out of love in a period of a week? What hurts the most is the way she is treating me and wanting to take the furniture from the house since they were a gift from her moms. I told her to give me the ring back but she would rather keep it and i am keeping the furniture. She also agreed to sign the house over to my name so i need to do that asap. I havent had a job in 2 months since i was fired by her mom for arguing with my wife too much. I admit i did neglect her at night sometimes because i was busy on craigslist trying to make money for the both of us. I am done blaming myself but i just want to know if i was blind to see this. She is still an amazing girl but i really want to change my perspective about her. I took her off of my myspace and facebook and she has a picture of the guy and her in her profile facebook. She was my first for everything and I dont know where i would be right now if it wasnt for the support of my brother his wife and my parents. I have been going to church and that is helping me but i just feel betrayed that she is acting like this now when everyone knows how good of a guy i am. Any advice from girls, what should i do, i know move on but i want it to make it hurt for her.

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As a person who's been through an ugly divorce, I can tell you that the best way to conduct yourself through all of this is not to stoop to her level of ugliness or game playing or nasty behavior. Be the gentleman that you have been, act with honesty & integrity, don't try to hurt her even if it might feel better to do so, and don't be her doormat either. Stand firm in your convictions that you are in the right and then don't back down when she attempts to manipulate you. Life has a way of balancing things out & your last statement of your question when you said you want it to hurt for her will happen sure enough on its own without you having to do anything but to maintain your ground & to act with the honor and integrity that you obviously seem to possess already. One day, when you are ready, you will hopefully meet the fortunate girl who will be worthy of the love that you have to give. I wish you all the best.

And then they say "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!" Move out now, so "you can find yourself too" !!

Brother better to have it happen now then on year 18 of your marriage. And as far a making her hurt, probably wont happen. Good Luck

God Bless!

You got married far too young, and now she is missing "party time". Just get divorced, and wait til you are older to try again.you'll find yourself with one 2 if you dont cut her looseyou did get married young but still she shouldn't have never treat you like that. Marriage is about being loyal, respectful and committed toward your spouse. That person you have there is selfish and only thinks about themselves.Get rid of her. NO chick is worth putting up with the crap she's doing to you.You don't have to do anything to make her hurt, karma will take care of her for you...