Would you still hold grudges against your in-laws?

Question:

Here's my story. It's long, so I'll try to make it short. I got married 2 yrs ago to someone who used to live in New Zealand. He moved to the states to be with me. His big family(9siblings) lives in New Zealand. On our wedding day, none of his family went to our wedding. They said it was too far and that they don't have time. On our wedding day, everyone from my side of the family was present except for his family. Before our wedding, we did flew to New Zealand to be with his family and to celebrate our engagement. His family had some home cooked meals for us and gave us our wedding gifts. That was that. My question was, would anyone out there still hold grudges against their inlaws for not attending their son's wedding? My husband was mad for a while because no one from his side showed up, but eventually he had forgiven them. BUT somehow I can't seem to let it go. Here are some more useful info. A few months after our wedding, some of his siblings went to Europe for vacationing and since they said they were on the way to the states, they dropped by and visited us. Only cause it was convenient. Several months after that his other siblings went to Canada for a friends wedding. They also dropped by to visit us for a few days cause it was on the way and convenient for them. We found out that on the month of our wedding, a few of his siblings went to Thailand for vacationing, went to Australia and Vietnam. His siblings are well off and they are not poor. They are just very inconsiderate. We offered to pay the flight tickets for his parents but they said they are too old to fly. The siblings can can travel everywhere but can not attend their own brother's wedding. I am just so pissed thinking of how inconsiderate they are. What do you think? Please share some of your advice with me. Thanks.

Answers:

Yeah I would be pissed. It seems like they choose what/who is more important for them to spend time with. This isn't a question of finances it has to do with respect.

Well, they are your in-laws, so they aren't going anywhere soon. It kinda sounds like they don't approve of him moving to the U.S. Talking with his parents wouldn't hurt, because there's obviously something they aren't happy with. If they are constantly avoiding ways to be involved in your life, then that's their loss. Maybe they will come around at some point, but until then it's just going to drive a wedge between your husband and you.