Do you ever feel like giving up?

Question:

I don't mean suicidal thoughts, because there is so much to enjoy in life. I just mean, do you ever feel like giving up at where you're at in life and moving on to something else? I've been married for 17-yrs now and have a 16-yr old son and a 13-yr old daughter. Sometimes I get such a blah out of life. Driving down the same old street from work to home, eating the same old meals, stopping at the same stores, gas stations, etc...I sometimes get an overwhelming feeling of depression. I just want to buy a bus ticket to someplace that nobody knows me and just start over fresh. I don't care if I work at a 7/11 and make minimum wage and live in a kitchenette. Just as long as it is something different from what I do now. It's not simply a matter of changing jobs or moving into another house either. I have been feeling this way (more and more) for the past few years. I am a committed family man and would NEVER leave my wife or kids behind because I care about them too much. It's just these urges I get that I'm missing out on something in life. That there is more to life than what I am living. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? What can I do? Family vacations are not the solution for those of you who would suggest just taking a good vacation.

Answers:

Yeah I do. But I always ask myself, give up to what? In fact right now I have some girl and her friends stalking my answers cause she thinks that I said something mean to her in an answer, I knew that I hadn't said anything mean, I just wouldn't do that. I looked through all her 31 answers and didn't find an answer from myself. But I got mad because she said what if I thumbs down all your answers or report you. So I got mad and I told her not to threaten me. I also told her that she mixed me up with someone else. Two days after this communication with he,r I was answering a question from another person and what do I see but, two answers below my answer another Angel G and she gave a mean answer!. I'm thinking how can there be another Angel G. So Now this girl stalks my answers and clicks report even when I'm not saying anything to report. They always say sorry and they will make the people who report have less influence. Anyway back to you. All men feel what you feel at times. It all feels to familiar/surreal/boring. But you have to look at it this way YOU have peace and predictability. This is peace your experiencing. Do you know how many people come home to topsy turvy? Count your blessing. Then employ the things I did for my husband, when I feel that its getting mundane for him I send him to live at a hotel for a week or two. I make him go to work from there. Sometimes while he's at the hotel I come to see him alone or sometimes I bring the children and we have dinner at the hotel. Sometimes I let him come home and we are at my sister's for a week and we go to school and work from my sister's so he can have the house all to himself. Some times for about three weeks at a time I make Thursday Dad's day to cook dinner. Sometimes I have Dad fix breakfast, the kids lunches, and dinner for a week. The first time I did this it scared him half to death so when he called my sisters house I let him know that women's intuition was at work and whenever I felt he needed it I was going to employ unwarned events for him. Now I have come home from one of these" difference excursions" and found pizza where it shouldn't be and drinking having gone on. But I trust my husband. You might also try to find some volunteer work that you can do one night of the work week and maybe stay in the city overnight. It switches things up. Also my mother always told me never come home the same way everyday.We also have family night with no excuses we eat together and play games and we have "different food" and "different country" night- I play spanish records during dinner and speak in Spanish as much as I can, I cook a Spanish meal (as best I can)It's Spanish, Mexican, Japanese, Italian everything until everyone goes to bed. Sometimes I go to the supermarket and bring home a fruit or food we have never had before and we figure out how to cook it or eat it. Good luck with your difference excursions.

Find things you can enjoy online..There is no cheaper form of travel or fantasy and no im not saying seek out women.Its the More fact you can go anywhere talk to anyone and be anyone all at the same time and nobody will care.As far as how you feel its very common and it doesn't make you less of a good dad or husband.Good luck to you

i do suggest a vacation to somewhere pretty far and nice but without your family just go alone for a few weeks they will understand but dont just go on vacation do fun things maybe skydiving or something risky and fun bunjee jumping or hang gliding you just need to get aaway for a while!

Maybe a vacation, pet, maybe built something.

Ya need to live try new things get a pet.